Monaliza Smile

I wateched a movie from a while called Monalize Smile , it was starting by Julia Robers, regardless of the movie itself idea, but i liked a statement that was mentioned by one of the girls when she was making a debate with her mother in the movie,
the mother was trying to convince the girl to keep up her marriage although it was turning miserable and she wasnt happy , for the sake that her image would be fine

the girl replied (by what it means), commenting on her image in the society by comparing her self with monaliza picture, saying that monalize looks smiling , she looks happy , but is she really happy ?

this statement i liked for so many reasons, for me i alaways face situations that we should do things (i am not talking about right and wrong ) , just to satisfy the social image , what about us , are we happy by that ? do we really want it ? and what about if what we really need and want is weired for the society surrounding us, because we arent fullfilling the social image.

so many aspects are like that , for example, if you went and you prepared your home, it should of a certian style that people see it is fame from their point of view, if you choose something to do or someone you want to be with, you have to think whether this will be acceptable in the society ,m does the image looks fine or not ?

maybe not all the people are like but there are so many aspects when i think about them ,i find that big part of my decision is built on the social image and how it will be seen . is it acceptable? does it look fine ? does it look nice ? what about me ? shouldnt it have the first priority .

i am not saying that we should go and do wrong behaviors or to put ourself under suspection from people and society , no , i am talking about the social image , without being suspected in your behaviour,.

For those who need to remember

I usually keep some of the mails that i recieve that i like or touched my hear in away or another , even if it has to do with a nice memory and this will be the only reminder of it .

Among them one i loved very ,uch , i recieved it 4 years ago, i was a bit upset as my mood was turining down , i felt like some of the thing were going in the other direction that i wanted , actually it wasnt like that ,

At that time i recieved this mail , i felt like as if it is a message from God, it was like a spark or a reminder to make it up for me , it was quite a strong poem , for some one who is in pain ,it is quite strong , thanks God my situation wasnt that strong at all , but it seems that we give personal aspects bigger volume than it really is when they are just new.

i thought it would be nice to share , here it is :

What happened to those days when my faith was strong?

When I wouldn't dare think of doing anything wrong

when my yaqeen in Allah would lead me through

the good and bad .. the old and new

What happened to those days when my du'aa was sincere?

when there was absolutely nothing on earth that I would fear

when I was certain that Allah was really near

and would run to Him and leave all that is dear

What happened to those days when I could read and recite well?

when I bought al-janna and this dunya I would sell

when my heart was pure and all full of light

when my qiyam was my only source of strength and might

What's wrong my soul.. why did you fall?

Don't you know that Allah knows and hears your call?

A little test like this one shouldn't beat you so

It shouldn't pull you down to a level so low

Don't you know that Allah chooses what is best

and that this is all a previously planned test

Don't you know that He hears your soul .. He hears your cry

He sees you fall .. He sees you sigh

Allah is Great .. Allah is Al-Hakeem

His ways are just no matter how dark it may seem

Hold on, my soul, to the fireball in your palm

Hold on to it and when it burns act calm

whenever it falls, bend down and restart

let those tears fall and wipe that heart

Remember, my soul, the beauty of the promised firdaws

You know it's your dream to build there a hous

Get back on your feet and go back to those day

I know this only a passing phase ...

Awareness

I guess many of our problems today could be solved by having awareness level, I am not talking about the education level, even if we are ignorant, there should be some of awareness level to people. What are their rights mad how they can look for it, how they can preserve their resources, what is right and what is wrong, what are their duties?

Well I was remembering my last omrah and I remember that I saw so many Muslims over there that I believe they are very much uneducated and they don’t have awareness by the holy place they are going to. They are spontaneously acting in a way that is not acceptable in such a holly place. I am not blaming them or judging them, I am more blaming us, the educated people who should give a hand for the uneducated and unaware people by advising them nicley what is right and what is wrong and what is acceptable and what is not. And they don’t really have to be educated but the community surrounding them, can give them some clues, in a nice way, for example I experienced that with the doorman kids, they are in their 6th grade, they are a bit unaware by what is surrounding them and, they are nice and polite but no much guidance towards their duties towards God, and what we should do and why, and why is the good behavior is self rewarding for God’s sake. Because sometimes it is the only way that makes us sticks to the right behavior even if we don’t like it.

My older sis when she was talking to them about some promising stuff for those who do good deeds and who stick to them, we can see how their eyes were amazed.

I believe that ignorance unfortunately brings so many wrongful behaviors in our society because there is no education, and sometimes they tell themselves “so what for that “, or "what will happen if I did so", I know that some really educated people do so many wrong things but it was recognized in some TV programs that in low uneducated standards the wrongful behaviors is spread in a noticeable way.

I think it is our responsibility if we can give a hand for people by participating in awaring them even if they were the next door neighbors, but we shouldn’t skip a chance by saying and giving a guide for people in a nice way and that how we can get up as a society and accordingly to prophet Mohamed (PPBUH), who cared so much by educating people, to an extent that in one of his wars, they can set free the prisons of war if he taught ten of the Muslims how to read and write.

Rememberance

When becoming humiliated, remember the Prophet (Peace be upon him) in Ta'if.

When being starved, remember the Prophet (Peace be upon him) tying two stones to his stomach in the battle of Khandaq.

When becoming angry, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) control of anger on the martyrdom of his beloved Uncle Hamza.

When losing a tooth, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) tooth in the battle of Uhud.

When bleeding from any part of the body, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) body covered in blood on his return from Ta'if.

When feeling lonely, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) seclusion in Mount Hira .

When feeling tired in Salaat, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) blessed feet in Tahajjud.

When being prickled with thorns, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) pain from Abu Lahab's wife.

When being troubled by neighbours, remember the old woman who would empty rubbish on the Prophet (Peace be upon him) .

When losing a child, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) son, Ibrahim.

When beginning a long journey, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) long journey to Madinah.

When going against a Sunnah, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) intercession, (Ummati, Ummati, Ummati) (My Ummah).

When sacrificing an animal, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) sacrifice of 63 animals for his Ummah.

Before shaving your beard, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) face rejecting the two beardless Iranians.

When falling into an argument with your wife, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) encounter with Aisha and Hafsa.

When experiencing less food in the house, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) days of poverty.

When experiencing poverty, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) advice to Ashaab-e-Suffa (People of Suffa).

When losing a family member, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) departure from this world.

When becoming an orphan, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) age at six.

When sponsoring an orphan, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) sponsor for Zaid ibn Haritha.

When fearing an enemy, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) saying to Abu Bakr in Mount Thour.

Whatever situation you may find yourself in, remember your role model, the best of creation: Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him).

things i like

today my matsers result is shown and elhamdAllah i passed , it was a tough year though
but it seems that i like studying and i like reading and researching to know more about what is going , i dont know whether this step will help me or not but hopefully yes in my career,

i started too to play my favourite sport that i like which is tennis , i used to dream when i was a child to be a hero and gain one of the grandsalam prizes, but after a while when i knew that it is quite hard :) i gave it up and i stopped playing and then i returned playing but not aiming for any champions of course , but for the hoby. thanks God that there is something that i really like as a hobby , i mean having many hobies but one or two hobbies that make you feel very happy is something amazing.

i mean sometimes we feel that there is nothing really extra you do for your self other than the normal routine in your life so this is really a nice thing elhamdAllah , well i hope that this would continue and to find other things too to do useful and interesting

marriage :)

The L Word:
6 weeks: I love U, I love U, I love U

6 months: Of course I love U

6 years: GOD, if I didn't love U, then why the hell did I propose?

Back from Work

6 weeks: Honey, I'm home
6 months: BACK!!
6 years: What did your mom cook for us today??

Gifts:

6 weeks: Honey, I really hope you liked the ring
6 months: I bought you a painting; it would fit the colours in the livingroom
6 years: Here's the money. Buy yourself something


Phone Ringing:
6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone
6 months: Here, for you
6 years: PHONE RINGING

Cooking:

6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
6 months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
6 years: AGAIN!!!!

Apology:

6 weeks: Honey muffin, don't you worry, I'll never hold this against you
6 months: Watch out! Don't do it again
6 years: What's not to understand about what I just said??

New Dress:

6 weeks: Oh my God, you look like an angel in that dress
6 months: You bought a new dress again???
6 years: How much did THAT cost me?

Planning for Vacations:
6 weeks: How do 2 weeks in Vienna or anywhere you please sound??
6 months: What's so bad about going to Istanbul on a charter plane?
6 years: Travel? What's so bad about staying home???

TV:

6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
6 months: I like this movie
6 years: I'm going to watch a football match, if you're not in the mood, go>to bed, I can stay up by myself

this post i will talk about forgiveness, we need to forgive each other, and stop having hard feeling toward any one, life is much shorter than that and useless to waste in trival stuff

i am writing that bec it happened that one of our aquantainces died suddenly almot suddenly or not suddenly she was ill and she get better for a while and suddenly she died, sorry for the morbid narration , well i was in good terms with her but i was internally very upset from her bec of some stuff that i think she didnt mean it and she has no hand in it

well what really hurted my feeling when suddenly a person goes by and you feel upset from yourself that internally you could be wrong with her and now she is the hands of God, so that is really bad, i dont want to experience the feeling that i have something bad inside me towards any one again , i mean life is shorter than that , i know it is hard sometimes people really do BAD things but i am talking about stuff that we can get over it if we want to

to forgive each other is something very impprtant and brings peaceful to the heart , and most of all try to do all the good deeds we want to do , and with the people , as well , nothing really worth except the good act and behavior and good psychology that is what remains.

i remember in this occasion , the person that prophet Mohamed PPBUH mentioned about him that he will enter el jana (paradise ) and when one of the followers followed him to see what he does extra to enter the paradise , he found that he does nothing extra than the followers , but he told them that when ever he sleeps, he doesnt have any thing bad or hatred in his heart towards any one , (by what it means the word he said )

it is quite hard but it worths the trail